It seems that in todays fast pace world it is becoming harder to keep and find true love. Are you confused by all of the dating and relationship advice that is out there, and just don’t know what “rules” you need to follow to find the man (or woman) of your dreams? If this sounds like you, you are going to “love” today’s Inspired Living episode.
I had the pleasure of interviewing my dear friend, April Beyer. For over 17 years, she has been known and recognized as the elite matchmaker and dating coach to some of the country’s most influential and marriage minded men. She has helped women bridge the gap between wanting love and actually finding it. In this Inspired Living interview, April Beyer talks about why it appears to be more and more difficult to find love, and some simple steps you can take today to banish those per-conceived notions of dating and what you can do to meet the right person for you.
1. Meet a man with your heart and not your head– There is that famous quote, “Whatever our souls are made of, him and mine are the same”. When it comes time for relationship readiness, we are all the same. Men are just as anxious and nervous as women are when it comes to love. You don’t need to wait 3 days to call someone, or wait to contact the person based upon who called whom last. They want to hear from you just as much as you want to hear from them. If you can meet a man with your heart and not your head, you will be 5 miles ahead of everyone else who is trying to meet him and date him.
2. Dating is just relating– It is like breathing in air. There is no skill set that you need to adopt or create to find love. You just need to be more of who you are. If you are not showing up as someone who is open to being caring and nurturing and not afraid to reveal and share, men lose interest within 2-3 dates. No matter how beautiful, sexy and intelligent you may be, men are not going to sit around and wait for something to develop on an emotional level 2-4 weeks from now.
3. Vulnerability is just your truth at your highest level– Most people think if they allow themselves to be vulnerable, they are opening up themselves to harm. However, being vulnerable is just your ability to be transparent. If your truth puts you in harm’s way, then you are with the wrong person.
4. Don’t limit yourself– Many times we create lists of who we want to meet. Although lists may be good if they are deep rooted and beyond the surface, but they can also limit you from meeting someone really wonderful. You need to push past your comfort zone and try something different. You have to be open and let go of any per-conceived ideas of who you think you should be with.
Do you have a dating or relationship question? Or do you want to share how you found and kept true love?
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As always, thank you for watching. Remember to keep dreaming it, living it and BEing it!
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As a female that’s driven, competitive, strong, and independent, I seem to get into relationships with passive men that have no drive, initiative, and need my attention (from my perspective). However, I see them as committed, caring, devoted, true, empathetic, and trusting – all qualities that I believe are lacking in more ‘dominant’ men.
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Keri, I really liked this post. I have been following April for about 4 -5 years. I kind of wished that this post could have went on for about an hour. 17 minutes is too short. Thanks again! Another great matchmaker is Janis Spindel. She is out of NYC. Check out her website: https://www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com/ Thanks again for what you do!