The Perfection Trap


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The P in “perfection” should stand for poison. I realize that may sound a little harsh, but I have seen too many people loose their passion for something because they are trying to be perfect at it, suffering as they strive for unattainable perfection. Consider some of the biggest names in business or Hollywood. In reality not one of them actually is perfect or have had a perfect business, although the powers that be would love to fool us into buying up this absurd ideal.

When is the last time you didn’t do something because your timing, finances or health weren’t in perfect order? When have you found yourself not pursuing an opportunity because you (falsely) believed that you wouldn’t be good enough?  Oh the pitfalls of perfection. Regardless of what it is – relationships, acting, speaking, being a business owner, a mom – when you strive to be perfect you are setting yourself up for constant disappointment.

In contrast, I wholeheartedly believe in striving for excellence. Let me stress that excellence is not the same as perfection. To gain excellence you must make a commitment to be the best YOU that you can be. Stretch yourself to a point that separates you from the crowd because of your willingness and determination to succeed, motivated simply by knowing that you can do it because you are giving it your very best.
The need for perfection is perpetuated by an unhealthy thought process. Take a moment to absorb the following, and step out of the trap:

  1. Realize there is NO such thing as perfection.

It is simply a myth that was created to make you feel inferior. You could be the best athlete, performer, power mogul in the world and you still wouldn’t be perfect. Accept that life’s best lessons are learned by trial and error and use this to your advantage.

  1. Accept and celebrate who you are.

Absolutely nothing should deter you from giving yourself the love and the respect you deserve, faults and all. You will spend far too much time and energy trying to be something you’re not. Save it and focus on the gifts you’ve already been given.

  1. Learn to brand or promote your uniqueness instead of striving for an unrealistic ideal.

The unrealistic ideal has been played out too many times anyhow! Stick to your guns and utilize your own talents.

  1. Stop waiting. To be excellent requires action so get going now!

Decide to follow your dream, dedicate yourself to your plan, and deliver by giving it your all. Don’t cheat yourself of any more time. Today is the day to move ahead.
I encourage you to shed your ideals of perfection that may be holding you hostage. They only inhibit your ability to act on your dreams. Instead, make a commitment to give it your personal best, knowing that you are 100% capable of making your dreams your new reality!

Dream it. Live it. Be it.



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