How many times do you find yourself saying “yes” to things that you don’t want to do? Are you saying “yes” just to please others? “No” can be a scary word but also a very powerful one. Saying “no” can be especially difficult for women. Women are such pleasers that we want to say yes to everything then we find ourselves worn out, overcommitted and not getting the results we wanted. So in this Inspired Living episode I would like to share my tips to help you decide when on when to say yes and when to say no.
- What is this “yes” costing me? Before you commit to something give yourself time. Am I saying yes to this out of fear and scarcity or because it is in alignment with my intention and my bigger vision? Every time you say yes to something, you say no to something else. Every time you say no to one thing you allow other opportunities to come in. Saying yes will take your time and focus away from something that could be perfect for you.
- Yes out of fear vs, an empowering “no”. How do you know what to say yes or no to when you don’t even know what it is you are committed to creating? Something great can show up in your life but if it is not in alignment with your vision, you have to say no. Take some time to get clear on what your intention and vision is.
- For every “yes” you say “no” to something else. By saying yes you could be saying no to the perfect thing waiting for you. We feel so guilty saying “no” but we need to realize that is our own fear and limiting beliefs thinking that we have to please everyone. You can’t please everyone and when you try you are really hurting yourself. How can you be, do and have all the amazing things you want to do in the world if you are always focusing on trying to please everyone. “No” is not a bad word.
After sharing my tips I really encourage you this week to start saying no to a few things.
So of course I want to hear from you, do you feel like you’re constantly saying yes? And if so do any of these tips help you? If you are good at saying no I would like to hear from you also and maybe you can share your tips! Post your comments below.
When you are inspired, you inspire others!
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Simple. Heard many times. Yet the click just happened now. The light bulb flashed bright and…..I got it. “Every time I say no to something, I’m saying yes to some thing else” I may not know what that yes it is but I’m maintaining my availability and ability to receive it when it comes. And….I’m actually looking forward to saying NO, soon. Mmmmm. Wonder how long I’ll have to wait for it? For my chance to say, “No. I’m not able to help you with that. ” Exciting. Nervous. Rewarding.
Guilty of saying yes too fast and too many times. Except I am I do love saying yes, Especially to my customers. I feel like there are smaller instances that I need to say “try to say no” the older I get. I think when we are younger we feel like we “have to say yes”. That you for your video!
I loved this video Keri Murphy! Great tips for sure that I will keep in mind next time I’m asked to sponsor an event or think I am going to say yes to sponsoring an event or showing my wearable art. I’m getting much more clear on my vision, so that helps a lot! I have learned from the many “wrong yes’s!”
Another wonderful video Keri Murphy 🙂 So helpful. So glad to call you friend.
Keri , your message is spot on. And you definitely have the “IT Factor” for TV.
I was terrible in the past of doing this and as single mom realized I needed to learn to say “No” and not feel bad about it! Great video reminder!!
Oh my gosh! … that’s me!
Finally said “no” to a career that wasn’t aligned with my passion…flying! It feels so freeing and wonderful to have had the courage to take on this new adventure! I wish upon everyone the courage to follow what sets your heart on fire!